If you've never been to therapy before, here is a little insight as to what you can expect from your time with me.
- If you are wanting a therapist who will just sit there quietly and nod her head in agreement, then I am NOT the therapist for you.
- If you want to work with someone who'll listen and give you honest feedback, then I may be a good fit for you.
- If you want to be able to be yourself and say what's really on your mind without having to worry about offending your therapist, then I am definitely OK with that!
- Goals help to guide us as to where you are at and where you want to be. We will set goals that are realistic and accomplishable.
- Are you coming to therapy because you want to, or are you coming because someone else wants you to or is forcing you? Coming for yourself is the best reason. If you attend for yourself then you will probably complete your goals quicker and with more satisfaction.
- As your therapist, I'm not there to tell you what is wrong with you. There is NOTHING wrong with you! I'm not there to give you my advice. I can offer ideas and things for you to think about. Finding solutions to what is happening helps you to create your own solutions that work for YOU, not me. I want you to be successful - whatever that means to you.
- Sometimes you feel worse before you feel better. I know that sounds strange, so let me explain: At times, we may talk about things that you normally don't tell everybody else. Shame does some "wonderful" things to our feeling of self worth. However, this does not mean that it will last forever or even for a long time; it just means that we may have a little bit of hard work to do before you begin to feel better.
- Developing a good relationship with your therapist is very important. We will form a close relationship that will stay in my office. This is different from a friendship. We need to feel comfortable around each other without fear or shame. You should feel safe discussing deep emotional feelings without the fear or rejection.